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Sometimes I have a point to make and I won’t give it up until I’ve choked the life out of it!
Such is the case of Beingness versus Becomingness.
If one looks back over the years he or she will discover that it was always more fun trying to become. This is the stuff dreams are made of, and in many cases, it’s these dreams that carry us through the mundane.
The only problem with this is that while one is working on becoming, he is most certainly being something at that time, whether it’s a person working at a dead-end job, taking classes, or at the very least being someone who is trying and dreaming to become, right?
And Heaven forbid if one actually does become, for at that moment he will need a new game, some new ambition or goal to work towards.
Even sadder is the person whose dreams and ambitions were never realized and they are kind of stuck being something or someone they would rather not be.
Although this is something I would rather not test, I read one time that if one is swimming in the ocean and encounters a shark, simply be the shark and don’t eat yourself!
It could work.
But could one tell the shark to give him a moment and let him work on becoming the shark?
No, he would simply have to be the shark, or else he would be dinner!
A person sees that there could be great fluidity in being able to assume beingnesses rather than grinding away trying to become.
I continue to hammer this point because it will always be easier to simply be healthy instead of working all of the time trying to become healthy.
Consider again for the third time this Emerson quote,
“We are always getting ready to live, but never living.”
We see people taking all kinds of potions and lotions that do more harm than good, or spending 7 days a week hitting the gym and then grinding away on some other physical torture the rest of the time.
These people are unhealthy and regardless of what they believe in terms of becoming healthy, they are unhealthy.
But are they really living, or just getting ready to live someday?
A person really needs to look at this, and ask himself the big questions:
- Am I harming myself?
- Are these lifestyle changes that will keep me from continuing to harm myself?
- Are the things that I’m doing actually helping, am I getting better and healthier?
If not, stop harming yourself and be healthy and well. Do the usual and customary- eat healthy foods, get plenty of sleep and sunshine, plenty of exercise and rest, and don’t waste your time with idiots! Find new friends!
I think sometimes people are so spun up in becoming that they lose sight of the ultimate ambition and that is to live and live well.
Why would a person do anything if he wasn’t enjoying being alive and living?
The other day I asked Dr. Diane which she would choose:
For one week lived the most incredible, most blissful life where all of her dreams and wishes came true knowing that that could be the last week of her life, or would she rather stay the course and somehow slug it out and make it to 100 years old?
She wanted to know what would happen after that week.
That’s exactly right, what happens after that week, and even more so what would that amazing, amazing week even look like?
That would be up to her, but either way, she would have to create what happens next, right?
She could make another week that was even more amazing than the last, or she could do those things that would make enduring 100 years not so bad.
I suppose in the end it wouldn’t matter which direction she chose, and in the end either route poses the same problems-
Dr. Diane had no idea what the most amazing week of her life would even look like or entail, nor what it would take to make it to 100 years old the best that she could.
And therein lies the problem.
If you can’t imagine it, you probably can’t create it.
So what are most grinding away trying to become or create if they have no idea what it’s supposed to look like when they’ve achieved it? How would they know if they did achieve it?
Sadly most people’s dreams and ambitions aren’t theirs anyway, but someone else’s, someone they would love to be.
Is this the becomingness that most spend the best years of their life trying to become? Someone else’s decision?
I think we are so spun up in trying to find happiness that we never simply be the happiness we seek and create it.
What could be easier?
It’s gotta be easier than chasing someone else’s happiness, wouldn’t it?
I just finished reading a book by Carey Wallace entitled:
Stories Of The Saints
It’s an easy-to-read book for older kids, but I like it.
One account was of John of the Cross who was a Spanish Priest who was a poet and a thinker.
He was upset that a number of the Priests and Monks of his time were more interested in accumulating wealth and power rather than serving Jesus and God, and would rather pursue their own happiness at the expense of those they promised to help.
He said that trying to find happiness in this world was like trying to eat air when you were starving.
How many plates of air would it take for you to be sated, especially if you were starving?
Most will do whatever they can to get as many plates of air as possible, and never find fulfillment or happiness- ever.
Figuratively speaking, isn’t this what most are pursuing in their efforts to become, thousands and thousands of plates of air?
How much testosterone does a person have to take before they are finally convinced they are back in High School?
How many magic mushroom trips to the Magic World before they can finally confront this world?
How much Ozempic does a person have to take before they are satisfied they are skinnier than Kate Moss?
How many different biohacks before they feel they’ve convinced everybody that they are now some kind of superhuman cyborg machine?
What’s so bad about simply being you, and living your life?
If you think, “NOTHING!!!!!” then give us a call or drop us an email and we’ll be more than happy to help you realize what an amazing person you really are!
But you probably already know this!
Take Care,
Dr. Dave
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